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Should we break up?

After Christmas and New Year, many people think about breaking up with their partner. Holidays are in some ways unnatural, because we are spending lots more time together than usual – even more than in previous lockdowns. It’s often in a confined space with the heating on too high. We can have unrealistic expectations about […]

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What relationship skills do I need for 2021?

The skills you need to sustain a romantic relationship are not that different from those you need for other areas of your life: family, friends, the workplace, and even how you deal with pandemics and politics. In this post I’ll discuss a few key skills we can all work on, whether we’re single or not. […]

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Why you should talk to your White partner about race

Prince Harry recently admitted that he had no awareness of unconscious bias until he met Meghan. Interracial or interethnic couples still face overt and subtle forms of racism, research shows. But, like Harry, these relationships can have benefits close to home and in the wider community.

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Can dating change the world?

We are more open to dating outside our ethnic group than you might think. And dating has the potential to break down barriers in society. So take up the challenge to be more open-minded in our dating!

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Can I have sex with my date yet?

On 22nd September, the Metro published an article entitled “Casual sex is still banned”. But is this really true? Casual sex is still banned https://t.co/Zg9eCXdRUS — Metro (@MetroUK) September 22, 2020 Established couples can now have sex Established couples that don’t live together are now allowed to have sex, according to new government guidelines. Many […]

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Can you help who you’re attracted to?

When I started dating after a twenty year relationship, and after I had got through my Tinder phase, I tried OKCupid. There were lots of questions. Could I date a smoker? Did I care about their height? Was it essential that they had a degree? It all seemed a bit like shopping, reducing people down […]

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Expanding your dating pool

When you set up a profile on a dating app, you may be asked to filter out people who are the wrong age or too far away. Perhaps you don’t want to date a smoker, or someone who is keen to have children. But some dating apps still allow you to filter out profiles by […]

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Appreciating your partner without being cheesy

When was the last time you complimented your loved one or date? Maybe you think you’re not the kind of person who is into that soppy stuff, but it can really help to buffer your relationship against the daily irritations as well as the bigger challenges we are all facing right now. Many of us […]

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Can your relationship survive lockdown?

Is it OK to watch different TV programmes in the evening? Do you have to go for a romantic walk together EVERY day? Rachel helps you navigate the New Normal and make the most of those opportunities to irritate each other as creatively as possible.