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Does my mate fancy me? Take the quiz!

Do you sometimes wonder if your friend might want to be more than “just good friends”? Research shows that people often use “tests” to monitor whether their friend is getting the wrong idea.[1] Males and females use these tests, but females use a greater variety of tests, particularly 18 and 19. You can do the […]

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Part II: How can I stay “just good friends”?

Manuel and Katy, who are in their forties, have been friends for a few months. Katy has a lot of male friends and a new boyfriend. Manuel finds her attractive and enjoys spending time alone with her. If she showed an interest in him romantically, he would respond. She sees him just as a friend. […]

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Protecting yourself from online dating crime

This article was updated in October 2020. Dating crime is still on the up. UK police figures between 2015 and 2018  include 2,029 recorded offences – including sexual offences – involving an online dating website or app. In 2015, 329 offences were recorded, compared to 658 recorded offences in 2018. Other articles describe how the […]

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Part I: Can men and women be “just good friends”?

Manuel and Katy, who are in their forties, have been friends for a few months. Katy has a lot of male friends and a new boyfriend. Manuel finds her attractive and enjoys spending time alone with her. If she showed an interest in him romantically, he would respond. She sees him just as a friend. […]

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Could I be the victim of a dating scam?

£39 million was lost last year by 3,889 UK victims of dating fraud, according to the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau.[1] Online dating victims are persuaded to part with large sums of money, on average almost £10,000[2] per victim. Recently, a man killed himself after handing over thousands of pounds to a fake girlfriend.[3] Even very […]

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How should I prepare for my first date?

So you’ve clinched it! You’ve got beyond the endless messaging to actually arranging a date! What should you do next? Here are some tips from someone who had 22 first dates in 2016, plus some stories from my clients …. Where are you going to have your date? Many seasoned daters say meet for a […]

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The S Word: Saying sorry to your date

Sooner or later you’re going to mess up. It might happen on the second date, or the tenth date. (If it happens on the first date, that’ll probably be it.) How can you minimise the effect and move forward in your dating? You’ll probably have memories of messing up in previous relationships. Did you have […]

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Why Tinder is so ‘evilly satisfying’

Why Tinder is so ‘evilly satisfying’ Jeanette Purvis, University of Hawaii This article was originally published in The Conversation. It has been reprinted with permission under the Creative Commons licence. Read the original article. In America, 60 percent of digital media consumption now occurs on mobile or tablet devices instead of desktop computers. As people […]

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Alternative Dates

Want to have a date that’s a bit unconventional? Try one of these activities and you could get to see how your date interacts with others, or how they cope with competition, making mistakes, and possibly losing. Or you might want to see how they can respond spontaneously to new information or experiences. Here are […]

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Anxious about Dating?

Do you feel very nervous before dates? Do you suffer from shyness in social situations generally? Here are some tips to help you relax and enjoy your dates: Practise talking to strangers about simple things like asking for directions, comparing products when you’re both staring at the shelf in the supermarket, or asking for a […]