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Diversity in your dating

Online dating can broaden our horizons At last – a study that shows that we are more likely to date people from different ethnic groups when we’re online dating, compared with other more traditional dating methods! Pre-internet, partners were similar to us In the past, we were likely to pick a partner similar to us […]

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Am I emotionally available?

Emotional availability is about the ability to share an emotional connection. It is about responsiveness, empathy, intimacy, openness, sensitivity, and articulation. Alpha males in particular are criticized by dating coaches for lacking this ability, but we can all improve in this area, in all kinds of relationships, both personal and professional. Perhaps the crucial question […]

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What have I learnt about dating in 2016?

In the last year, since becoming single after 20 years of marriage, I’ve had great fun dating 22 guys. 11 of them were just single dates. The others led to more dates, some lasting several months. I also set up my dating coaching business, running workshops and one to one sessions. Here are some of […]

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When should I sleep with my date?

A lot of American dating coaches say if a woman sleeps with a guy too early she’s giving him the message that he doesn’t have to treat her like they’re in a proper relationship. They say once you’ve made it easy for him to sleep with you, he won’t need to put in any effort […]

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Aromatic Dates

How important is it to smell good on a date? You’re probably thinking “Duh! Very important!” but of the nineteen men I’ve dated in the last year, eight didn’t smell good, and that’s an immediate turn off. It’s a sensitive subject, but I have to address it head on. You don’t want this to be […]

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How do I decide if my date is right for me?

After nine months of dating, I recently created this golden triangle of what I am looking for: I discussed with some clients which of these they would be willing to give up. We all found it impossible to choose, so I concluded that they were all essential. (Actually, four days after I created it, I […]

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New to online dating? Top tips to get started

If you’re joining the wonderful world of online dating for the first time, you’ll quickly learn that the rules are VERY different from meeting people face-to-face – or “organic dating” as I like to call it! Here are some of the lessons you’ll learn …. Fantasy date You can very easily build up a fantasy […]

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Seven dates in seven days

I recently set myself a challenge to do seven dates in seven days. I’d just joined www.okcupid.com and had so many messages from interesting guys it seemed an efficient way to find out if anyone of them were for me without getting too excited about any one guy. It was exhausting and I wouldn’t recommend […]