Rachel New, London Dating Coach
Realistic, personalised dating advice for intelligent people
When you set up a profile on a dating app, you may be asked to filter out people who are the wrong age or too far away. Perhaps you don’t want to date a smoker, or someone who is keen to have children. But some dating apps still allow you to filter out profiles by […]
The laptop is switched on, the screen flickers into life and, once more, I peer at my Guardian Soulmates profile and mull over what to edit, change and tinker with, to ‘maximise interest’. I wonder for the umpteenth time whether I should take down that silly picture of me in a shark suit that I […]
When was the last time you complimented your loved one or date? Maybe you think you’re not the kind of person who is into that soppy stuff, but it can really help to buffer your relationship against the daily irritations as well as the bigger challenges we are all facing right now. Many of us […]
Is it OK to watch different TV programmes in the evening? Do you have to go for a romantic walk together EVERY day? Rachel helps you navigate the New Normal and make the most of those opportunities to irritate each other as creatively as possible.
So you’re staying in and already going stir crazy. You need social contact and emotional intimacy. Maybe online dating can come back into favour … with some variations? Virtual dates A video date is a great romantic substitute for a first date. It saves you travelling and spending money and you can cut it short […]
Five fresh ideas to boost your love life in 2020!
Do you need a lot of space in your relationship or when dating? Find out how to express your needs and avoid running away,
Gary came to see me recently. He found dating really hard work last year, and told me: “I spend hours on dating sites but rarely get a date, let alone a second date.” He is a decent, not bad-looking guy, and asked me, “What am I doing wrong?” Here is some of the advice I […]
Today is World Mental Health Day. Let’s help to reduce the stigma around mental health issues by thinking about how to manage our mental health in dating and relationships. Good relationships promote well-being and reduce loneliness, but we need to work at them. Let’s communicate more honestly about our difficulties Nadiya often suffers high levels […]
Here is a dilemma for me as a dating coach: Should I support my clients in their pursuit of people that are “out of their league” on dating sites? Or should I encourage them to be more realistic? A new study sheds some light on how common this is, and how high you should reach […]