Rachel New, London Dating Coach
Realistic, personalised dating advice for intelligent people
Gary came to see me recently. He found dating really hard work last year, and told me: “I spend hours on dating sites but rarely get a date, let alone a second date.” He is a decent, not bad-looking guy, and asked me, “What am I doing wrong?” Here is some of the advice I […]
Today is World Mental Health Day. Let’s help to reduce the stigma around mental health issues by thinking about how to manage our mental health in dating and relationships. Good relationships promote well-being and reduce loneliness, but we need to work at them. Let’s communicate more honestly about our difficulties Nadiya often suffers high levels […]
Here is a dilemma for me as a dating coach: Should I support my clients in their pursuit of people that are “out of their league” on dating sites? Or should I encourage them to be more realistic? A new study sheds some light on how common this is, and how high you should reach […]
Katia had three wonderful dates with Lucas. They had such a deep emotional and intellectual connection and things got intense very quickly. He was so tender and loving when they ended up in bed, and he held her all night. After breakfast he promised to call her and arrange for them to spend a day […]
In a recently published study by Brown and Sacco (2017),[1] how others answered a classic moral dilemma affected how participants saw them in three areas: how suitable they were for a long-term relationship, how desirable they were, and how likely they were to stray. This dilemma is called the trolley problem, first introduced in 1967 […]
After Christmas and New Year, many people think about breaking up with their partner. Holidays are in some ways unnatural, because we are spending lots more time together than usual. It’s often in a confined space with the heating on too high. We can have unrealistic expectations about wanting the perfect Christmas which are inevitably […]
So, how was 2017? Did you get plenty of dates, but waste a lot of time on the wrong people? Or perhaps you weren’t getting many replies to your messages and can’t work out what went wrong? Is part of you getting a bit sick of online dating? Let’s explore some ways in which you […]
Mixed race dating If you haven’t been to see #Hashtag Lightie at the Arcola Theatre, Dalston, London it runs until 2nd December 2017. Written by Lynette Linton and directed by Rikki Beadle-Blair, it’s a funny, moving play with some great acting and characterisation, all about the experience of being mixed race in London, with some interesting insights […]
Do you sometimes wonder if your friend might want to be more than “just good friends”? Research shows that people often use “tests” to monitor whether their friend is getting the wrong idea.[1] Males and females use these tests, but females use a greater variety of tests, particularly 18 and 19. You can do the […]
Manuel and Katy, who are in their forties, have been friends for a few months. Katy has a lot of male friends and a new boyfriend. Manuel finds her attractive and enjoys spending time alone with her. If she showed an interest in him romantically, he would respond. She sees him just as a friend. […]