Rachel New, London Dating Coach
Realistic, personalised dating advice for intelligent people
Do you sometimes wonder if your friend might want to be more than “just good friends”? Research shows that people often use “tests” to monitor whether their friend is getting the wrong idea.[1] Males and females use these tests, but females use a greater variety of tests, particularly 18 and 19. You can do the […]
Manuel and Katy, who are in their forties, have been friends for a few months. Katy has a lot of male friends and a new boyfriend. Manuel finds her attractive and enjoys spending time alone with her. If she showed an interest in him romantically, he would respond. She sees him just as a friend. […]
Sky News[1] have reported that online dating crimes in the UK have risen from 140 reported in 2011 to 676 in 2016. 70% happen after going home with the other person after a date. Another recent article[2] describes how the information you provide on a dating site can be used to trace you back to […]
Manuel and Katy, who are in their forties, have been friends for a few months. Katy has a lot of male friends and a new boyfriend. Manuel finds her attractive and enjoys spending time alone with her. If she showed an interest in him romantically, he would respond. She sees him just as a friend. […]
£39 million was lost last year by 3,889 UK victims of dating fraud, according to the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau.[1] Online dating victims are persuaded to part with large sums of money, on average almost £10,000[2] per victim. Recently, a man killed himself after handing over thousands of pounds to a fake girlfriend.[3] Even very […]
So you’ve clinched it! You’ve got beyond the endless messaging to actually arranging a date! What should you do next? Here are some tips from someone who had 22 first dates in 2016, plus some stories from my clients …. Where are you going to have your date? Many seasoned daters say meet for a […]
Sooner or later you’re going to mess up. It might happen on the second date, or the tenth date. (If it happens on the first date, that’ll probably be it.) How can you minimise the effect and move forward in your dating? You’ll probably have memories of messing up in previous relationships. Did you have […]
Why Tinder is so ‘evilly satisfying’ Jeanette Purvis, University of Hawaii This article was originally published in The Conversation. It has been reprinted with permission under the Creative Commons licence. Read the original article. In America, 60 percent of digital media consumption now occurs on mobile or tablet devices instead of desktop computers. As people […]
Want to have a date that’s a bit unconventional? Try one of these activities and you could get to see how your date interacts with others, or how they cope with competition, making mistakes, and possibly losing. Or you might want to see how they can respond spontaneously to new information or experiences. Here are […]
Do you feel very nervous before dates? Do you suffer from shyness in social situations generally? Here are some tips to help you relax and enjoy your dates: Practise talking to strangers about simple things like asking for directions, comparing products when you’re both staring at the shelf in the supermarket, or asking for a […]