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Expanding your dating pool

When you set up a profile on a dating app, you may be asked to filter out people who are the wrong age or too far away. Perhaps you don’t want to date a smoker, or someone who is keen to have children. But some dating apps still allow you to filter out profiles by […]

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The Dating Games: Video-dating during Lockdown

The laptop is switched on, the screen flickers into life and, once more, I peer at my Guardian Soulmates profile and mull over what to edit, change and tinker with, to ‘maximise interest’. I wonder for the umpteenth time whether I should take down that silly picture of me in a shark suit that I […]

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Appreciating your partner without being cheesy

When was the last time you complimented your loved one or date? Maybe you think you’re not the kind of person who is into that soppy stuff, but it can really help to buffer your relationship against the daily irritations as well as the bigger challenges we are all facing right now. Many of us […]

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Can your relationship survive lockdown?

Is it OK to watch different TV programmes in the evening? Do you have to go for a romantic walk together EVERY day? Rachel helps you navigate the New Normal and make the most of those opportunities to irritate each other as creatively as possible.

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Love in the time of Corona(virus)

So you’re staying in and already going stir crazy. You need social contact and emotional intimacy. Maybe online dating can come back into favour … with some variations? Virtual dates A video date is a great romantic substitute for a first date. It saves you travelling and spending money and you can cut it short […]

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Better dating for men

Gary is a heterosexual man who came to see me recently. He found dating really hard work last year, and told me: “I spend hours on dating sites but rarely get a date, let alone a second date.” He is a decent, not bad-looking guy, and asked me, “What am I doing wrong?” Here is […]

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How can I get dates with attractive people?

Here is a dilemma for me as a dating coach: Should I support my clients in their pursuit of people that are “out of their league” on dating sites? Or should I encourage them to be more realistic? A new study sheds some light on how common this is, and how high you should reach […]

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Dating Nicely

Katia had three wonderful dates with Lucas. They had such a deep emotional and intellectual connection and things got intense very quickly. He was so tender and loving when they ended up in bed, and he held her all night. After breakfast he promised to call her and arrange for them to spend a day […]