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How are you going to date differently in 2018?

So, how was 2017? Did you get plenty of dates, but waste a lot of time on the wrong people? Or perhaps you weren’t getting many replies to your messages and can’t work out what went wrong? Is part of you getting a bit sick of online dating? Let’s explore some ways in which you […]

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Am I emotionally available?

Emotional availability is about the ability to share an emotional connection. The model illustrated by the figure below was created by Rachel’s work with clients to capture what characterized successful connections made on dates and in role play. The six elements used are responsiveness, empathy, intimacy, openness, sensitivity, and articulation. (Another model, this one supported […]

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When should I sleep with my date?

A lot of American dating coaches say if a woman sleeps with a guy too early she’s giving him the message that he doesn’t have to treat her like they’re in a proper relationship. They say once you’ve made it easy for him to sleep with you, he won’t need to put in any effort […]

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How do I decide if my date is right for me?

After nine months of dating, I recently created this golden triangle of what I am looking for: I discussed with some clients which of these they would be willing to give up. We all found it impossible to choose, so I concluded that they were all essential. (Actually, four days after I created it, I […]