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What relationship skills do I need for 2021?

The skills you need to sustain a romantic relationship are not that different from those you need for other areas of your life: family, friends, the workplace, and even how you deal with pandemics and politics. In this post I’ll discuss a few key skills we can all work on, whether we’re single or not. […]

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Appreciating your partner without being cheesy

When was the last time you complimented your loved one or date? Maybe you think you’re not the kind of person who is into that soppy stuff, but it can really help to buffer your relationship against the daily irritations as well as the bigger challenges we are all facing right now. Many of us […]

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Protecting yourself from online dating crime

This article was updated in October 2020. Dating crime is still on the up. UK police figures between 2015 and 2018  include 2,029 recorded offences – including sexual offences – involving an online dating website or app. In 2015, 329 offences were recorded, compared to 658 recorded offences in 2018. Other articles describe how the […]

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The S Word: Saying sorry to your date

Sooner or later you’re going to mess up. It might happen on the second date, or the tenth date. (If it happens on the first date, that’ll probably be it.) How can you minimise the effect and move forward in your dating? You’ll probably have memories of messing up in previous relationships. Did you have […]

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Am I emotionally available?

Emotional availability is about the ability to share an emotional connection. It is about responsiveness, empathy, intimacy, openness, sensitivity, and articulation. Alpha males in particular are criticized by dating coaches for lacking this ability, but we can all improve in this area, in all kinds of relationships, both personal and professional. Perhaps the crucial question […]

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Aromatic Dates

How important is it to smell good on a date? You’re probably thinking “Duh! Very important!” but of the nineteen men I’ve dated in the last year, eight didn’t smell good, and that’s an immediate turn off. It’s a sensitive subject, but I have to address it head on. You don’t want this to be […]

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How do I decide if my date is right for me?

After nine months of dating, I recently created this golden triangle of what I am looking for: I discussed with some clients which of these they would be willing to give up. We all found it impossible to choose, so I concluded that they were all essential. (Actually, four days after I created it, I […]