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Reading on relationships for Black History Month

Here are some of my favourite novels written by authors of colour that taught me something about relationships. Research shows that reading is a great way to develop your understanding of people who are both the same as and different from you. And reading about relationships that are outside your social circles is a powerful […]

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Should we break up?

After Christmas and New Year, many people think about breaking up with their partner. Holidays are in some ways unnatural, because we are spending lots more time together than usual – even more than in previous lockdowns. It’s often in a confined space with the heating on too high. We can have unrealistic expectations about […]

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What relationship skills do I need for 2021?

The skills you need to sustain a romantic relationship are not that different from those you need for other areas of your life: family, friends, the workplace, and even how you deal with pandemics and politics. In this post I’ll discuss a few key skills we can all work on, whether we’re single or not. […]

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How you answer the trolley problem can affect your romantic prospects

In a recently published study by Brown and Sacco (2017),[1] how others answered a classic moral dilemma affected how participants saw them in three areas: how suitable they were for a long-term relationship, how desirable they were, and how likely they were to stray. This dilemma is called the trolley problem, first introduced in 1967 […]

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How are you going to date differently in 2018?

So, how was 2017? Did you get plenty of dates, but waste a lot of time on the wrong people? Or perhaps you weren’t getting many replies to your messages and can’t work out what went wrong? Is part of you getting a bit sick of online dating? Let’s explore some ways in which you […]

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The S Word: Saying sorry to your date

Sooner or later you’re going to mess up. It might happen on the second date, or the tenth date. (If it happens on the first date, that’ll probably be it.) How can you minimise the effect and move forward in your dating? You’ll probably have memories of messing up in previous relationships. Did you have […]