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Alternative Dates

Want to have a date that’s a bit unconventional? Try one of these activities and you could get to see how your date interacts with others, or how they cope with competition, making mistakes, and possibly losing. Or you might want to see how they can respond spontaneously to new information or experiences. Here are […]

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Am I emotionally available?

Emotional availability is about the ability to share an emotional connection. The model illustrated by the figure below was created by Rachel’s work with clients to capture what characterized successful connections made on dates and in role play. The six elements used are responsiveness, empathy, intimacy, openness, sensitivity, and articulation. (Another model, this one supported […]

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When should I sleep with my date?

A lot of American dating coaches say if a woman sleeps with a guy too early she’s giving him the message that he doesn’t have to treat her like they’re in a proper relationship. They say once you’ve made it easy for him to sleep with you, he won’t need to put in any effort […]