by Rachel New | Aug 21, 2026 | messaging, online dating
Bumble has officially ditched its signature requirement for straight women to message first and extended match time from 24 to 72 hours. While some speculate this signals a return to traditional gender roles, the shift actually reflects what online daters want most:...
by Rachel New | Apr 23, 2025 | healthy dating, interpersonal skills, messaging, online dating, organic dating
This blog post was updated in April 2025. Do you want to make some changes in your dating? Are you getting plenty of dates, but with the wrong people? Or perhaps you’re not getting replies to your messages and can’t work out why? Is part of you feeling...
by Rachel New | Jun 11, 2024 | dating profile, messaging, neurodivergence, online dating
You have only 150 characters. How do you get that tricky balance between humorous and useful? How authentic should you be? And which prompts should you pick? These dilemmas form a part of the social psychology of online dating called impression management. While you...
by Rachel New | Nov 13, 2019 | attachment, communication skills, emotional availability, intimacy, messaging
Updated 18/06/2025 Marcia had just got back from her fourth date. She called me with a dilemma. “I want to take it slow and keep it interesting, but he keeps asking me to spend the day with him and then stay over. It feels like that’s too much like a relationship this...
by Rachel New | Aug 15, 2018 | attraction, dating profile, messaging, online dating, psychology
Here is a dilemma for me as a dating coach: Should I support my clients in their pursuit of people that are “out of their league” on dating apps (whatever that might mean)? Or should I encourage them to be more “realistic”? A new study sheds some light on...
