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Should we break up?

After Christmas and New Year, many people think about breaking up with their partner. Holidays are in some ways unnatural, because we are spending lots more time together than usual – even more than in previous lockdowns. It’s often in a confined space with the heating on too high. We can have unrealistic expectations about […]

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What relationship skills do I need for 2021?

The skills you need to sustain a romantic relationship are not that different from those you need for other areas of your life: family, friends, the workplace, and even how you deal with pandemics and politics. In this post I’ll discuss a few key skills we can all work on, whether we’re single or not. […]

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Appreciating your partner without being cheesy

When was the last time you complimented your loved one or date? Maybe you think you’re not the kind of person who is into that soppy stuff, but it can really help to buffer your relationship against the daily irritations as well as the bigger challenges we are all facing right now. Many of us […]

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Can your relationship survive lockdown?

Is it OK to watch different TV programmes in the evening? Do you have to go for a romantic walk together EVERY day? Rachel helps you navigate the New Normal and make the most of those opportunities to irritate each other as creatively as possible.

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Part II: How can I stay “just good friends”?

Manuel and Katy, who are in their forties, have been friends for a few months. Katy has a lot of male friends and a new boyfriend. Manuel finds her attractive and enjoys spending time alone with her. If she showed an interest in him romantically, he would respond. She sees him just as a friend. […]

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Part I: Can men and women be “just good friends”?

Manuel and Katy, who are in their forties, have been friends for a few months. Katy has a lot of male friends and a new boyfriend. Manuel finds her attractive and enjoys spending time alone with her. If she showed an interest in him romantically, he would respond. She sees him just as a friend. […]

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How should I prepare for my first date?

So you’ve clinched it! You’ve got beyond the endless messaging to actually arranging a date! What should you do next? Here are some tips from someone who had 22 first dates in 2016, plus some stories from my clients …. Where are you going to have your date? Many seasoned daters say meet for a […]

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The S Word: Saying sorry to your date

Sooner or later you’re going to mess up. It might happen on the second date, or the tenth date. (If it happens on the first date, that’ll probably be it.) How can you minimise the effect and move forward in your dating? You’ll probably have memories of messing up in previous relationships. Did you have […]

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Why Tinder is so ‘evilly satisfying’

Why Tinder is so ‘evilly satisfying’ Jeanette Purvis, University of Hawaii This article was originally published in The Conversation. It has been reprinted with permission under the Creative Commons licence. Read the original article. In America, 60 percent of digital media consumption now occurs on mobile or tablet devices instead of desktop computers. As people […]