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Part II: How can I stay “just good friends”?

Manuel and Katy, who are in their forties, have been friends for a few months. Katy has a lot of male friends and a new boyfriend. Manuel finds her attractive and enjoys spending time alone with her. If she showed an interest in him romantically, he would respond. She sees him just as a friend. […]

Man anticipates woman wanting more than friendship when she texts him asking to meet
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Part I: Can men and women be “just good friends”?

Manuel and Katy, who are in their forties, have been friends for a few months. Katy has a lot of male friends and a new boyfriend. Manuel finds her attractive and enjoys spending time alone with her. If she showed an interest in him romantically, he would respond. She sees him just as a friend. […]

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The S Word: Saying sorry to your date

Sooner or later you’re going to mess up. It might happen on the second date, or the tenth date. (If it happens on the first date, that’ll probably be it.) How can you minimise the effect and move forward in your dating? You’ll probably have memories of messing up in previous relationships. Did you have […]

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Anxious about Dating?

Do you feel very nervous before dates? Do you suffer from shyness in social situations generally? Here are some tips to help you relax and enjoy your dates: Practise talking to strangers about simple things like asking for directions, comparing products when you’re both staring at the shelf in the supermarket, or asking for a […]

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Aromatic Dates

How important is it to smell good on a date? You’re probably thinking “Duh! Very important!” but of the nineteen men I’ve dated in the last year, eight didn’t smell good, and that’s an immediate turn off. It’s a sensitive subject, but I have to address it head on. You don’t want this to be […]

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How do I decide if my date is right for me?

After nine months of dating, I recently created this golden triangle of what I am looking for: I discussed with some clients which of these they would be willing to give up. We all found it impossible to choose, so I concluded that they were all essential. (Actually, four days after I created it, I […]