Online event

Rachel will talk about what scientific research tells us about online dating messaging, and relationships, with practical tips and time for you to ask questions and discuss on Zoom and Instagram. Dates TBC. Contact Rachel using the form at the bottom of this page to be kept up to date about this and future events. 


Face to face recommendations

Dating events from Smudged Lipstick

Singles events such as Jenga dating, salsa, cards against humanity dating, comedy nights where you read out your diary entries about dating … This website will give you lots of opportunities to meet people and have fun! See here for events. They have been gradually bringing back their events as lockdown has lifted.

Here is a review of Jenga dating from a client:

“The evening involved equal numbers of men and women in their twenties and thirties in an upstairs room in a pub playing Jenga. Some of the Jenga pieces had dares or questions inside. The hosts were very friendly. There was an icebreaker to start and a bar at the back. Though nervous to start off with, I enjoyed the evening –  it was good to engage in normal chat rather than online.”

Smudged Lipstick also come up with quirky ideas for dates in London each week. 

Meetup events to make new friends Regular events in central London for different age groups with interesting, normal people, to suit every interest from philosophy to games nights to tennis.

Design my Night September 2020

Date ideas August 2020

The Nudge: 100 best dates in London

Alice in Wonderlust blog date ideas

Design my night quirky London dates 

Time Out date ideas

Museum lates


What you said about Rachel’s workshops and events

Dating workshop at the Divorce Club January 2020

“Rachel’s talk was very interesting and interactive – she has a wealth of information to offer especially on those potentially challenging first few weeks of dating. Really enjoyed the talk and gained a lot of insight. Thank you, Rachel.”

“Rachel’s excellent course was both interesting and entertaining, offering invaluable practical tips and advice supported by scientific research results.”

“Rachel’s dating talk was informative and word to the wise of anyone who chooses to enter the lion’s den of 21st century dating.  Rachel provides all the proverbial tools without having to enter fully kitted in combat gear or with a lifelong membership with BUPA!”

“Rachel’s talk was excellent. It was a lot of fun asking unusual questions to make deep connections. I met some fascinating people who can become friends. It gave me more confidence to meet women in real life.”

“Rachel’s talk was very informative and fun. She gave a great insight into the psychology of dating along with great advice when approaching the opposite sex online. I will definitely be more mindful of what I learnt when messaging women.”

“The talk was informative and fun; for someone who’s been dreading dating, it helped me to see dating as just another activity to enjoy and experience thanks to your tips. I don’t feel reluctant anymore!”

“Fun research findings, useful practical tips (e.g. keep your initial online message to a person short), and a chance to interact with others in the room.  An evening well spent!”

“Rachel’s dating workshop is a fun, fabulous and flirty event. She’s a great host, delivering her hard won, smart insights  into the dating scene in a truly  warm and engaging way and always with a twinkle in her eye. Planning and execution were excellent. She devised activities that were highly effective in getting us all to share ideas and experiences.  Witty, acerbic and never shy of making the odd controversial comment on the baffling world of internet dating, Rachel seemed an old hand.”

“I really enjoyed Rachel’s talk – especially the sections about messaging and how to be more concrete in your dating profile.”

“Really useful for learning how to navigate the modern dating scene.”

“A very useful introduction to dating.”

“Very helpful for us men to hear the woman’s perspective on dating!”

“I learnt that men have a very different dating experience from women.”


“Great fun yesterday, lovely men, gorgeous women, interesting and fun workshop. What’s not to like?”

“Well thought out and entertaining workshop.”

“Really brilliant.  I really enjoyed it.”

“Comprehensive and practical advice.”

“Rachel presents very well and is very funny!”

“Really enjoyed evening – interactive, insightful, engaging, interesting.”