Rachel’s articles from other sites
Divorce Survival Guide: the first few weeks
What’s it like dating after a divorce?
Is falling in love inevitable? The Dating Goddess Dilemma
Dating apps could do more to combat racism
Articles Rachel has contributed to
How to improve photographs of yourself
Articles on dating and relationships
Pandemic dating
Coronavirus: Why dating feels so different now
Are single people about to enter ‘Coving Season’?
How the pandemic is affecting dating attitudes: Survey
Protecting your relationship during the pandemic
Cuffing Season 2020 Looks Different Than in Years Past—Here’s What To Expect
The Gay UK: Tips for body language on video dates
LGBTQ+
2020 review of lesbian dating apps
How dating changed the LGBT community
LGBT experiences of dating in the US
Black Lives Matter and ethnicity issues
Cosmopolitan: The power of queer Black love
Bumble: My Love is Black Love Podcast
Cosmopolitan: interracial couples respond to the Black Lives Matter movement
Rewire: What Does Racial Justice Look Like in an Interracial Relationship?
Cosmopolitan: Queer Black Stories
The Conversation: Ethnic filters and racism on Grindr
Huffington Post and ethnic filters
Bustle: What can we do about fetishization?
Cosmopolitan: How not to be racist when dating
The Stylist: Ethnic filters protect Black women
Does Britain still have an issue with interracial relationships?
Consent
Neuroscience
Can and should drugs be used to improve our love lives?
How to bio hack your brain to avoid getting emotionally involved
Dating for people on the autistic spectrum
As an autistic person, Netflix’s Love on the Spectrum is painful to watch
Tips for dating someone on the autistic spectrum
What it’s like dating as an autistic person
Dating and the menopause
Sex and the menopause with Samantha Evans & Dr Louise Newson
Sexual pleasure during the menopause
The Guardian: The menopause is ruining my sex life
Literary and philosophical perspectives on love
Kahlil Gibran on Intimacy and Independence
Joseph Campbell on perfectionism
Dating with a disability
Disability and dating: ‘Why do people think I’m my boyfriend’s carer?’
Dating apps for disabled daters
The body is not an apology by Sonya Renee Taylor
General
Latest review of dating apps July 2020
Understanding dating subscriptions
Regulatory body for dating sites and apps
US stats from the Pew Center 2020
Dating sites for disabled people
eharmony banned from claiming its algorithm is “scientifically proven”
How the internet has changed dating: The Economist
Toffee Dating: why I won’t be using the new ‘private school only’ app
Is being described as “chilled” by your date a good thing?
What men and women swipe right on
When do women value personality over looks?
What do 21st century arranged marriages and online dating have in common?
Fifteen tips to make a relationship work
Bad teeth are the number one put-off
The dubious science of genetics based dating
Legal implications of not revealing all on dating sites
Tribal dating – should we only date people who agree with us?
Your credit rating is more important than being hot
One third of us continue using dating apps while in a relationship
Algorithms are useless – just get out there and date!
Signs you might be dating a psychopath
Psychological factors in becoming a victim of a dating scam
Your dating profile can be traced back to your workplace
Getting out of the friend zone
How to Pick Your Life Partner – Part 1
How to Pick Your Life Partner – Part 2
Cracked phones are a turn-off and other random findings
Why Tinder is so ‘evilly satisfying’
Couples are similar to each other
Very detailed and useful review of the four major dating sites
How to break up with your online dating site
Customer satisfaction with online dating sites
The Huffington Post: 15 excellent dating tips
Why you will marry the wrong person
Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits
10 easy ways to piss off your girlfriend
Stella Gray in The Guardian: her online search for love
36 questions that can make you fall in love with anyone
The Problem with Modern Romance Is Too Much Choice
When Dating Algorithms Can Watch You Blush: mirroring the other person’s sentence structure
Empirical study: The longer you look at a face, the more attractive it becomes
Love by design: when science meets sex, lust, attraction and attachment
Places to go on dates: the most beautiful and tranquil places in London
Online braggers don’t get dates
Matthew Hussey on how to reply to a “hey” text from a guy
Don’t say sorry in your messages …. You’ll be 56% less likely to get someone’s number!
Female intelligence is a turnoff for low self-esteem men
Secrets of the six month dating rule revealed by Match
Empirical study: Deal-breakers before meeting for a date (summary of study in Science here)
Survey: Why do people lie on online dating sites?
Empirical study: Virtual dates are better than online chat
Survey: Motivation for using Tinder
Linguistic study of online messages shows some words are better than others
Review paper: The advantages of online dating
Review paper: Time spent online is not rewarded by face to face experience
Four things that kill relationships
How to be more attractive online
What should you look for in a long term partner?
Books
The Heartfix: An Online Dating Diary by Stella Grey – Fantastic account of 693 days of dating from The Guardian columnist – a MUST READ!
The Chemistry between us by Larry Young – the neuroscience of attraction
He’s just not that into you by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo – international bestseller on why he doesn’t call you
How to choose a partner by Susan Quilliam – “Drawing upon rich cultural material, psychology and her background in relationship therapy, Susan presents partner choice as a self-development journey, driving us to learn more about ourselves, about other people, about life and the way we want to live.” Buy here.
Labor of Love by Moira Weigel – History of dating – The Guardian review here.
The Curious History of Dating by Nichi Hodgson – very interesting on dating through time. Needs a good copy-editor, though! Buy here.
Flirt Coach by Peta Heskell – buy here.
Date-Onomics by John Birger – about the US stats on how many young datable men are out there – see here.
Sex in the Digital Age (2018) edited by Paul G Nixon & Isabel K. Düsterhöft – see here.
The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli Finkel – buy here.
The Seven Principles for making marriage work by John Gottman – buy here.
Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John and Julie Gottman
Podcasts
Meditation to relax you before or after a date
Dating Dilemmas: Take part in polls
What should you do if your date kisses too fast?
Should you tell a first date if they have bad breath?
I want to find out what the deal-breakers after meeting a date are for you …. It can often be things you had never thought of before, unique to one person, like an annoying habit of suddenly breaking into in a very bad Yorkshire accent or repeating themselves over and over …. (I wonder what mine are?!)
Tell me (anonymously) what they were by clicking on the link below! Really quick survey with just two questions!
https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/JP27WSX