Rachel’s articles from other sites
21st century dating
Divorce Survival Guide: the first few weeks
Dating for Divorcees
What’s it like dating after a divorce?
Is falling in love inevitable? The Dating Goddess Dilemma Interesting articles from the web about dating and relationships
eharmony banned from claiming its algorithm is “scientifically proven”
How the internet has changed dating: The Economist
Modern Love: The Economist
Toffee Dating: why I won’t be using the new ‘private school only’ app
Is being described as “chilled” by your date a good thing?
The effect of self-esteem on how attractive we think others find us and how successful we think we will be online dating
What men and women swipe right on
When do women value personality over looks?
What do 21st century arranged marriages and online dating have in common?
Fifteen tips to make a relationship work
Bad teeth are the number one put-off
The dubious science of genetics based dating
Legal implications of not revealing all on dating sites
All that is wrong with Bumble
Tribal dating – should we only date people who agree with us?
Your credit rating is more important than being hot
One third of us continue using dating apps while in a relationship
Algorithms are useless – just get out there and date!
Signs you might be dating a psychopath
Psychological factors in becoming a victim of a dating scam
Your dating profile can be traced back to your workplace
Avoiding the friend zone
Getting out of the friend zone
How to Pick Your Life Partner – Part 1
How to Pick Your Life Partner – Part 2
Pitfalls of online dating
Cracked phones are a turn-off and other random findings
Why Tinder is so ‘evilly satisfying’
Couples are similar to each other
Very detailed and useful review of the four major dating sites
How to break up with your online dating site
Customer satisfaction with online dating sites
The Huffington Post: 15 excellent dating tips
First date bingo
Why you will marry the wrong person
Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits
10 easy ways to piss off your girlfriend
Stella Gray in The Guardian: her online search for love
36 questions that can make you fall in love with anyone
The Problem with Modern Romance Is Too Much Choice
When Dating Algorithms Can Watch You Blush: mirroring the other person’s sentence structure
OK Cupid’s Big Data set
Empirical study: The longer you look at a face, the more attractive it becomes
Love by design: when science meets sex, lust, attraction and attachment
Places to go on dates: the most beautiful and tranquil places in London
Online braggers don’t get dates
Matthew Hussey on how to reply to a “hey” text from a guy
Don’t say sorry in your messages …. You’ll be 56% less likely to get someone’s number!
Female intelligence is a turnoff for low self-esteem men
Secrets of the six month dating rule revealed by Match
Empirical study: Deal-breakers before meeting for a date (summary of study in Science here)
Survey: Why do people lie on online dating sites?
Empirical study: attractiveness and gender role incongruency are the best predictors of online attraction
Empirical study: Virtual dates are better than online chat
Survey: Motivation for using Tinder
Linguistic study of online messages shows some words are better than others
Review paper: The advantages of online dating
Review paper: Time spent online is not rewarded by face to face experience
Four things that kill relationships
How to be more attractive online
What should you look for in a long term partner? Books
Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari – very funny, easy to read, thorough and informative about dating. The Guardian review here.
How to choose a partner by Susan Quilliam – “Drawing upon rich cultural material, psychology and her background in relationship therapy, Susan presents partner choice as a self-development journey, driving us to learn more about ourselves, about other people, about life and the way we want to live.” Buy here .
Labor of Love by Moira Weigel – History of dating – The Guardian review here.
Flirt Coach by Peta Heskell – buy here.
Date-Onomics by John Birger – about the US stats on how many young datable men are out there – see
Sex in the Digital Age (2018) edited by Paul G Nixon & Isabel K. Düsterhöft – see
The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli Finkel – buy
The Seven Principles for making marriage work – John Gottman – buy
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