In 2021, you knew what you wanted from dating and became more focused, not wasting time on people with incompatible values, goals or visions of what relationships should look like. You talked more openly about your mental health, your needs, what you felt comfortable with, what you weren’t willing to put up with, the facts about public health. You started putting self-care and compassion in the diary, working on yourself, building up your support networks. Authentic connections, organic dating (meeting in real life) and healthy boundaries became the ideals you knew you wanted to pursue.
In a recently published study by Brown and Sacco (2017), how others answered a classic moral dilemma affected how participants saw them in three areas: how suitable they were for a long-term relationship, how desirable they were, and how likely they were to stray. This dilemma is called the trolley problem, first introduced in 1967 […]
So, how was 2017? Did you get plenty of dates, but waste a lot of time on the wrong people? Or perhaps you weren’t getting many replies to your messages and can’t work out what went wrong? Is part of you getting a bit sick of online dating? Let’s explore some ways in which you […]
In the last year, since becoming single after 20 years of marriage, I’ve had great fun dating 22 guys. 11 of them were just single dates. The others led to more dates, some lasting several months. I also set up my dating coaching business, running workshops and one to one sessions. Here are some of […]
A lot of American dating coaches say if a woman sleeps with a guy too early she’s giving him the message that he doesn’t have to treat her like they’re in a proper relationship. They say once you’ve made it easy for him to sleep with you, he won’t need to put in any effort […]
After nine months of dating, I recently created this golden triangle of what I am looking for: I discussed with some clients which of these they would be willing to give up. We all found it impossible to choose, so I concluded that they were all essential. (Actually, four days after I created it, I […]
If you’re joining the wonderful world of online dating for the first time, you’ll quickly learn that the rules are VERY different from meeting people face-to-face – or “organic dating” as I like to call it! Here are some of the lessons you’ll learn …. Fantasy date You can very easily build up a fantasy […]
I recently set myself a challenge to do seven dates in seven days. I’d just joined www.okcupid.com and had so many messages from interesting guys it seemed an efficient way to find out if anyone of them were for me without getting too excited about any one guy. It was exhausting and I wouldn’t recommend […]