Is it OK to watch different TV programmes in the evening? Do you have to go for a romantic walk together EVERY day? Rachel helps you navigate the New Normal and make the most of those opportunities to irritate each other as creatively as possible.
If you liked those tips, here are a few more:
- Laugh more. Make jokes and silly noises, especially when you’re arguing.
- Let those niggles go. Don’t tell anyone off. Talk about your relationship out loud on Facebook Live instead. Maybe some of your friends will listen.
- Have your own routines that protect you from insanity. (Please use the hashtag #staysane.) For example, morning preparations of your daily snacks and iced coffees for later can be very soothing.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Just because they are drinking less doesn’t make them superior to you.
- Act like a different annoying person from the one you actually are. For example, you could start saying “I don’t feel that’s a very productive line of conversation” in a soothing, therapist voice as often as you can; or “If that’s what you really believe, you’re quite right to say it” in a placatory, teacher-in-a-pupil-referral-unit voice.[i]
I could go on, but I know what your attention span is like these days.
[i] That second one is attributed to the Cambridge historian G. M. Trevelyan in Williams, H. A. (1982). Someday I’ll Find You: an Autobiography. London: Michael Beazley.